Tame the voice in your head that says you're falling short.
Think of me as a personal trainer for your head and heart.
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A lot of the people I work with care a great deal about doing good, and are also hard on themselves.
There’s a voice in their head that says they should be doing more, and better. It’s why they rewrite the email four times, say yes when they mean no, and find it hard to switch off in the evenings.
I know that voice well!
Depleted
running on empty.
Disillusioned
because the change never comes fast enough.
Disempowered
because nothing you do seems to make a difference.
Deflated
because the spark that got you into this has gone quiet.
That’s often when the voice changes its tune, and “what’s the point?” creeps in on a tired afternoon.
It isn’t a flaw in you. Most of us were never taught how to get on with the voice in our own head.
That’s what I teach, through Mental Flow. It trains four mental muscles so you:
Awareness
tame the voice within that gets you down and holds you back
Attention
stay centred, even in the busiest moments
Acceptance
meet hard moments with kindness, not a fight
Action
act on what really matters
…so you go from feeling drained and like you’re falling short, to doing good and enjoying it.
doing work you believe in, giving your best and feeling at ease with yourself.
See how the method works →Maybe you...
- Replay your mistakes for days, and still feel like you’re about to be found out.
- Say yes when you mean no, then resent it later.
- Hold everyone to a standard nobody could meet, yourself most of all.
- Feel taken for granted, and can’t find a way to say so.
- Get tense, short or anxious when things don’t go to plan.
- Only feel okay when things are going well and people think highly of you.
- Juggle so many things that none of them gets your full attention.
- Keep running through what could go wrong, even when you’re meant to be resting.
- Go quiet and stew for days if you’re criticised or misunderstood.
- Guard your time and energy closely, and worry there won’t be enough to go round.
A few ways to work on this
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