Tame the voice in your head that says you're falling short.
Think of me as a personal trainer for your head and heart.
If you do purpose-driven work, push yourself hard, care about doing things properly, and still can't shake the feeling you're falling short, this is for you.
Hi, I'm Sol, a mental fitness coach. I help people like you get clear on how they want to show up in the world, so they can create a life that feels meaningful, fulfilling and joyful. I do it with my own training system, Mental Flow.
Awareness
curiousAttention
connectedAcceptance
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clear, creative, courageousYour mind is a muscle, and it can be trained. See how the method works →
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Maybe you...
- Replay your mistakes for days, and still feel like you’re about to be found out.
- Say yes when you mean no, then resent it later.
- Hold everyone to a standard nobody could meet, yourself most of all.
- Feel taken for granted, and can’t find a way to say so.
- Get tense, short or anxious when things don’t go to plan.
- Only feel okay when things are going well and people think highly of you.
- Juggle so many things that none of them gets your full attention.
- Keep running through what could go wrong, even when you’re meant to be resting.
- Go quiet and stew for days if you’re criticised or misunderstood.
- Guard your time and energy closely, and worry there won’t be enough to go round.
What if enough actually felt like enough?
Imagine your sense of worth not being tied to your output, not contingent on how much you gave, how hard you pushed, or whether anyone noticed, but simply enough, as you are.
Imagine waking up and not immediately scanning for what you failed to do yesterday. Starting the day from a place of steadiness rather than deficit.
And imagine having room for more than relief: knowing what truly matters to you, speaking up for it with confidence, and being fully present with the people you love, so that life feels less like something to get through and more like something to enjoy.
My training is built around four mental muscles.
Think of it like working with a personal trainer. You don't get physically fit by reading about exercise, you get fit by doing the reps, and these are the muscles we train together.
Awareness
curious
Your inner critic still talks, but it stops making your decisions.
You can't change a pattern you can't see, so we start by learning its greatest hits, like "you're behind" or "they'll find you out".
Attention
connected
Be fully with the people and work you care about, rather than half somewhere else.
Harvard research found our minds wander almost half the time, and we're less happy when they do.*
Acceptance
compassionate
A setback or bad news stops taking over the rest of your week.
Fighting difficult feelings tends to make them louder. Making room for them frees up energy for what you can actually change.
Action
clear, creative, courageous
Your weeks start to reflect what matters to you, not just everyone else's requests.
Getting clear on what's important and taking steps towards it is where the impact shows up.
*Killingsworth and Gilbert, Harvard University, 2010. Source
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Six weekly sessions with me, building the four mental muscles, plus short daily practices that help it stick.
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