Tame the voice in your head that says you're falling short.
If you do purpose-driven work, push yourself hard, care about doing things properly, and still can't shake the feeling you're falling short, this is for you.
Hi, I'm Sol, a mental fitness coach. Think of me as a personal trainer for your head and heart.
I help people like you tame the busy, critical inner voice that says they're not enough, and get clear on how they want to show up in the world, so they can create a life that feels meaningful, fulfilling and joyful.
"Still ambitious, still caring, just a lot kinder to yourself along the way."
A quick hello, in about a minute
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Maybe you...
Feel there's always more to do, and wish you were doing it better, however much you've already given.
Struggle to switch off, because you're constantly trying to problem solve or improve, making it difficult to feel present.
Say yes when you mean no, and find it difficult to speak your needs, because you want people to see you as capable and committed.
Spend too long on things, perfecting them to avoid criticism, slowing your progress and potential.
Put off the one thing that really matters, and find a hundred easier things to do instead.
Stay busy so you don't have to sit with the feeling that it's still not enough.
What if enough actually felt like enough?
Imagine your sense of worth not being tied to your output, not contingent on how much you gave, how hard you pushed, or whether anyone noticed, but simply enough, as you are.
Imagine waking up and not immediately scanning for what you failed to do yesterday. Starting the day from a place of steadiness rather than deficit.
And imagine having room for more than relief: knowing what truly matters to you, speaking up for it with confidence, and being fully present with the people you love, so that life feels less like something to get through and more like something to enjoy.
My training is built around four key skills.
Think of it like working with a personal trainer. You don't get physically fit by reading about exercise, you get fit by doing the reps, and these are the skills we practise together.
Awareness
Getting good at catching and unhooking from the unhelpful, and often hidden, judgements, assumptions and stories that keep you feeling stuck.
Attention
Stepping out of the story in your head and into what's here: your breath, your body, the sounds around you, the person in front of you. It steadies you when the critic gets loud, and brings you fully into your life.
Acceptance
Learning to allow a challenging inner experience to be as it is, without struggling against it, so you can see things clearly and have the freedom to choose a wise response.
Action
Developing an inspiring vision of what you want your life to look like, and building the courage to make it a reality.
"What stands out about Sol's coaching is the space he creates for people to arrive exactly as they are… He doesn't sit on a pedestal."Marc Convey
Not ready to talk yet? Start with the Critic Map.
A short guide and worksheet for mapping your inner critic, plus two bonus practices. Pop your details in and they're yours.
Here you go.
Open the Critic Map first, then the two bonus practices.
Once you've filled in your Critic Map, book a free call and we'll go through it together. No pressure, no pitch.
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Work through it, one to one
Work through what's on your mind right now, shaped around you and at your pace.
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